Are your suspicions founded?

Us girls are multi-faceted, complicated and interesting. 

We like to create our own dramas and ensure that those around us are clear that we know that we know what we think we know. (See - there's the perfect example!) ;-)

Most of us are also VERY in tune with what our guys are up to - or are we really?

Several of my friends are jealous of the women their husbands (or boyfriends) work with, are friends with on social media platforms and male friends' wives and girlfriends. They actually push the men in their lives away with their jealousy and checking up on them and generally being no fun to be around. 

If you are your fun, bubbly self that you were when you met him and were trying to impress him, he will look nowhere else. 

So you're no longer as thin and young as you were then? Well, he still loves you, despite your looks. He knows your tummy is flabby because you had his babies. He knows that he caused those wrinkles around your eyes and what matters most is the fact that he knows he is responsible for the laugh lines around your mouth. 

Unless you have hard evidence that he is messing around, don't cause yourself heart ache by imagining things that are not real. 

Accept what he says as the truth until proven otherwise. But don't destroy your relationship and push him away by being paranoid and watching his every move to find something sinister, something hidden. You can find out exactly how to detect an affair here. Most smart women also know that being the other woman is no fun at all. 

Very few of us managed to find a man who has never been in a relationship before and it is natural to be concerned about how he now feels about an ex. 

I was like that for the first few months of my relationship with my husband too. However, I realized that he is with me now because he has moved on from them. They were not what he was looking for and that is why he now chose me. I am his dream woman and I will work hard to ensure that's the way it stays. 

Having a man's children alone doesn't give you the right to be a bitch and expecting him to be happy with it. 

A relationship is not a jail and you can't force him not to have female friends or to not have contact with exes, provided you are aware of the fact that they have contact and that you know what is communicated (if you choose to know). If you are making him happy, he has no reason to be jealous of their new-found happiness and wish to go back to them. If you totally disagree with contact with other women or exes, you must practice what you preach and also break contact with all your exes and your male friends.

My hubby has 340 friends on Facebook - mainly women. What can I do? He's a charmer! 

But I know he adores me only. The reason why he is with me is because he loves me and I am his dream woman. He doesn't see anyone else, which is sad for him, but great for me. If he didn't adore me only, he would be with someone else - it's really that simple. 

Don't push your man  away with jealousy, paranoia and suspicions. Live and let live!

Now go on and do something he'll never forget!