Are your suspicions founded?

Us girls are multi-faceted, complicated and interesting. 

We like to create our own dramas and ensure that those around us are clear that we know that we know what we think we know. (See - there's the perfect example!) ;-)

Most of us are also VERY in tune with what our guys are up to - or are we really?

Several of my friends are jealous of the women their husbands (or boyfriends) work with, are friends with on social media platforms and male friends' wives and girlfriends. They actually push the men in their lives away with their jealousy and checking up on them and generally being no fun to be around. 

If you are your fun, bubbly self that you were when you met him and were trying to impress him, he will look nowhere else. 

So you're no longer as thin and young as you were then? Well, he still loves you, despite your looks. He knows your tummy is flabby because you had his babies. He knows that he caused those wrinkles around your eyes and what matters most is the fact that he knows he is responsible for the laugh lines around your mouth. 

Unless you have hard evidence that he is messing around, don't cause yourself heart ache by imagining things that are not real. 

Accept what he says as the truth until proven otherwise. But don't destroy your relationship and push him away by being paranoid and watching his every move to find something sinister, something hidden. You can find out exactly how to detect an affair here. Most smart women also know that being the other woman is no fun at all. 

Very few of us managed to find a man who has never been in a relationship before and it is natural to be concerned about how he now feels about an ex. 

I was like that for the first few months of my relationship with my husband too. However, I realized that he is with me now because he has moved on from them. They were not what he was looking for and that is why he now chose me. I am his dream woman and I will work hard to ensure that's the way it stays. 

Having a man's children alone doesn't give you the right to be a bitch and expecting him to be happy with it. 

A relationship is not a jail and you can't force him not to have female friends or to not have contact with exes, provided you are aware of the fact that they have contact and that you know what is communicated (if you choose to know). If you are making him happy, he has no reason to be jealous of their new-found happiness and wish to go back to them. If you totally disagree with contact with other women or exes, you must practice what you preach and also break contact with all your exes and your male friends.

My hubby has 340 friends on Facebook - mainly women. What can I do? He's a charmer! 

But I know he adores me only. The reason why he is with me is because he loves me and I am his dream woman. He doesn't see anyone else, which is sad for him, but great for me. If he didn't adore me only, he would be with someone else - it's really that simple. 

Don't push your man  away with jealousy, paranoia and suspicions. Live and let live!

Now go on and do something he'll never forget!

When relationships go bust

With the divorce rate at an all time high and the fact that so many people opt to not commit to marriage, one wonders what keeps people from finding true happiness. It’s not just a matter of falling out of love.

Speak to any number of married couples and you’re sure to hear of at least one couple where partners are living the life their partner wants them to live and missing out on their own dreams or goals. This is usually a very subtle thing in relationships where you just go along without giving it much thought. Yet, when you realise it, you may feel stifled and unhappy in the relationship and have too many commitments to allow you to cut your losses.

For me, the first question that springs to mind is how they missed the part of goal setting in the beginning of their relationship, which involved what they each wanted out of life in the long term.

The two most prominent examples here are when partners have different views on sex and money. Or where one partner is introverted and the other partner extroverted and needs a large circle of friends in order to be happy. The introverted partner would then spend a lot of time around a lot of people instead of quiet evenings at home. Or vice versa. It may be a good time to learn some Conflict Resolution Skills

In relationships where one partner is more dominant, the less dominant partner would often give in to the needs of the dominant partner to keep them happy at their own expense. The less dominant partner is less likely to demand a compromise which is fair to both parties and often give up something which is important to them.

This problem could lead to long-term resentment when it involves the core values, which is why it is so important to discuss these upfront.

If you are likely to be the dominant person in a relationship, you need to stop and ask your partner how they feel about things before steamrollering them into situations they don’t enjoy before destroying a potentially great relationship.

If all is lost, you may want to read Living Together In Divorce to find out about this Modern Relationship Concept. How To Divorce & Live Together During The Process.

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First Date with A Woman

Millions of people go on first dates every day - but how many of those dates result in a relationship or friendship at least? Very few.

The reason is that many people are so nervous on a first date, that they do not reflect the special person they really are. In order to correct this, they should have another date with the same person. Let's face it, you cannot get to know someone in two or three hours.That is if the date lasts that long and you don't run out of conversation.

Here are the important things you need to know before going on a date:

The Top 10 Ways to Keep the Conversation Going
The 15 Critical Do's and Dont's of a first date
The 35 Tips to Spark More Interesting Conversation

Do you know these things?

If not, click here to find out more.